When fear rears up, it’s helpful to have safe places to go. Having these spaces set up is a great way to plan ahead for fear.
This could be an actual place or it can be a beautiful visual space to relax in before a big event and when needed.
Safe, tranquil havens will be calming and it’ll be easier to face your fear.
Perception is a very powerful thing, and how you feel about your life affects how you respond. So, think about what you want to happen and you’ll give yourself a much better chance of manifesting it in your life. This won’t happen overnight but just start practicing it with one thought and go from there.
What is one recurring fearful thought you have about something you crave to have in your life? Start reversing this one thought and overtime, this will become a habit.
I used to see the glass half empty often but I'm glad I often see it half full, or more, these days.
When friends or family are going through difficult times. You want to do something and it doesn't seem like there is anything specific to do:
It could be just taking a short pause in your day and thinking of them having some peaceful moments in their day.
Do you wonder where the time goes and why things aren't getting done. Distractions get in the way.
If you're catching yourself fascinated by something that moves your focus away from the next important step towards a goal to thrive in your life (a new job or promotion, school, planning your next adventure) these can be distractions that are getting in the way of where you want to go.
When focusing on the next few steps towards the thriving life you want, it keeps the momentum going towards where you want to go.
Have you ever noticed others filters are different than your own?
If someone says something that is uncomfortable, take a few moments while taking some deep breaths. Think about what to ask or say next and go from there. This can clarify what they said and what the meaning was for them and this gives an opportunity for a more informed response.
Reducing some of those rubs with the people we love and care about adds more peace and joy to life.
Here's a simple rated tapping script to reduce negative messages that get in the way of moving forward.
Rate your feeling between 0 and 10 on "this negative thought"
Tap gently on the karate chop point (side of hand) and say statement out loud 3 times:
"Even though I feel stopped in my tracks by this old thought, I love and accept myself as I am."
Gently tap 3-5 times on these spots while saying out loud: "This old thought "
Top of head "This old thought "
collar bone "This old thought "
thumb "This old thought "
index finger "This old thought "
middle finger "This old thought "
pinkie "This old thought "
Take 2 deep breaths and check your number (rate it) on "This old thought " that was stopping you in your tracks. Repeat until your number is a 2 or less
The other day I was dealing with many things around a project in progress. And I was shallow breathing. When I took a few deep breaths and started to tap and the stress flowed out of me.
When you feel the stress or tension in the body rising take a few deep breaths and release it
Add more calming by tapping gently on the karate chop point
There are times we don’t realize how wound up we’ve become, when you notice it do something simple to reduce and release it.
Choose something you'd like more of in your life and focus on it.
Spend time in the feeling of what your wanting more of
Be open to ideas that come to mind
Even let it become a visualization of what you want
Let your mind focus on what you're wanting more of and when something comes to mind take a small action step toward it.
At the beginning of the year is a great time to explore what you want to accomplish. Here are some prompts to get you thinking and moving forward . . .
If you notice you aren't taking a step, break it down to smaller steps. This makes them no brainer steps and dials down resistance to your big dream.
Have you wanted to do something and felt apprehension, this has simple steps to reduce apprehensions about doing something?
The Holiday season can be busy. Set aside some special time for you this week to fill your bucket.
Having easy, doable steps to move you forward on a goal keeps the momentum going.
What are 3 action steps to move forward on a goal this week?
Make your action steps as very easy & doable.
This walks you through a simple 3 step system for decluttering.
When there are changes you’re wanting to make, possibly a promotion or opening a business or doing something else out of your comfort zone, fear can come up. It’s helpful to have courage to take the next step towards change. One way to do this is:
This is your next step towards the change you’re wanting. Find steps that are a 2 or lower because they’re no brainer, just do it steps. Having easy doable steps helps to produce and grow courage to take the next steps needed for change.
Follow the easy steps for self-kindness tapping
Rate your low self-kindness feeling between 0 - 10, 10 being the lowest self-kindness you've had and 0 being the most self-kindness you've had.
Tap gently on the karate chop point and say out loud 3 times:
Even though I feel low self-kindness I love and accept myself as I am
Tap gently on each round and other points and say out loud on each point:
I want to nurture my self-kindness
Take 3 deep breaths in and out and check your rating number, repeat until 2 or lower
One day life was going great and I couldn’t figure out why I was feeling overwhelmed. On my drive home I realized there was an overflowing basket of feelings that needed to be untangled. It felt good to release it and understand why I felt overwhelmed.
Here's the simple process:
This helps to release overwhelm.
Having less overwhelm leads to more peaceful, joyful days.
In life fear comes up when change is wanted and there’s a choice to be made. You can stay where you are or you can find ways to move around or past it.
The best way I’ve found to move around or past fear is to take one small doable step at a time. Here are three questions to get you started toward change:
When your number is a 0 to 2 take action! Move past fear and take action one small doable step at a time.
Recently I wanted to do something and I had apprehensions about it. With some thought I created a plan to reduce it. Here’s the simple three-step plan:
Planning ahead is a great way to address apprehensions and do the things you want to do in your life.
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Being prepared for times when life starts to feel more challenging with this practice.
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