When there are changes you’re wanting to make, possibly a promotion or opening a business or doing something else out of your comfort zone, fear can come up. It’s helpful to have courage to take the next step towards change. One way to do this is:
This is your next step towards the change you’re wanting. Find steps that are a 2 or lower because they’re no brainer, just do it steps. Having easy doable steps helps to produce and grow courage to take the next steps needed for change.
Follow the easy steps for self-kindness tapping
Rate your low self-kindness feeling between 0 - 10, 10 being the lowest self-kindness you've had and 0 being the most self-kindness you've had.
Tap gently on the karate chop point and say out loud 3 times:
Even though I feel low self-kindness I love and accept myself as I am
Tap gently on each round and other points and say out loud on each point:
I want to nurture my self-kindness
Take 3 deep breaths in and out and check your rating number, repeat until 2 or lower
One day life was going great and I couldn’t figure out why I was feeling overwhelmed. On my drive home I realized there was an overflowing basket of feelings that needed to be untangled. It felt good to release it and understand why I felt overwhelmed.
Here's the simple process:
This helps to release overwhelm.
Having less overwhelm leads to more peaceful, joyful days.
In life fear comes up when change is wanted and there’s a choice to be made. You can stay where you are or you can find ways to move around or past it.
The best way I’ve found to move around or past fear is to take one small doable step at a time. Here are three questions to get you started toward change:
When your number is a 0 to 2 take action! Move past fear and take action one small doable step at a time.
Recently I wanted to do something and I had apprehensions about it. With some thought I created a plan to reduce it. Here’s the simple three-step plan:
Planning ahead is a great way to address apprehensions and do the things you want to do in your life.
Being prepared for times when life starts to feel more challenging with this practice.
If you want to add more, go for it!
Watch the video to walk through the steps to ease trapped feelings and move forward in a specific area in life.
Journal about this or take some time to think about it:
What would your life look like if you were living the life you love?
This is a great way to check in with yourself to see where you're at in your life and if there's any change you'd like to do.
When feeling trapped writing about it is a good way to see what’s going on and what can be done when feeling trapped. Here are some questions to get you started:
Answer these questions and free write about feeling trapped and what your open to do about it. Subtle shifts make a big difference.
Recently I was feeling trapped and I didn’t want to stay there. Here’s what I did:
This eased the trapped feeling and let move forward, feeling more empowered.
Do you ever wonder when the clutter spot morphed into a pile. Reduce it by:
Do this as much as needed (daily, weekly or 3 times a week) and soon the clutter spot will be minimal or even gone. When it gets down than maintain it with this simple system.
What do you want to accomplish this week?
Enjoy your accomplishments.
Have you ever done something and it felt so difficult to do?
This happened to me recently. I had a bunch of scans I needed to do and I was using a bed scanner and it was like watching paint dry scanning those documents. Plus, a lot of extra work and time. Then someone suggested getting a double-sided, auto feeding scanner. This made the job fun and I have scanner love.
Use practices and tools you have and if they aren’t working it’s time to find a new one.
Take a quick moment for self-Love
I love myself as I am in this moment
Things don't' need to be perfect all the time and having a rating for things comes in handy. In some group calls I was a part of: Good, Better, Best rating came up often. This has come in handy for food choices to rating neighborhoods I would live in.
If perfect isn't working for something take the Good, Better, Best rating for a trial run and see if it’s a fit for you.
Having a self-kindness practice can bring more contentment and joy in life.
Take time for self-kindness and have more joy, contentment and energy for other people and things in life.
One way to nurture self-kindness is to have a list of kind things to do for yourself. Here are some ideas:
When you notice self-kindness fading to the back, it’s a good time to pick up your self-kindness list and do some of them.
Follow these five easy steps for mantra tapping:
Using mantras and tapping at the same time is a powerful practice to use.
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