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Today I decided I needed to ask a hard question that I'd been putting off asking about a project I'm involved in. It was funny, I asked in an upbeat way and received great news back. Even though it felt hard to ask, and I put it off, it was so worth hearing the answer. Have you put off asking a difficult question before? Putting off asking a difficult question can make it feel harder to do the longer it takes. If there's a question to ask, just ask it and find out the answer. Then you can move forward from there. 
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Even though I know exciting life events can still be stressful, it still surprises me at times when stress shows up around it. Have you noticed this and what do you do to handle the stress? Some ways I've dealt with it are:
I'd love to hear some ways you address stress like this.  Photo by Sincerely Media on Unsplash When feeling stuck, connect with others and talk about it. Sometimes all is needed is:
The flood gates open and ideas start to flow in.  Photo by Jani Brumat on Unsplash When friends or family are going through difficult times. You want to do something and it doesn't seem like there is anything specific to do:
It could be just taking a short pause in your day and thinking of them having some peaceful moments in their day.  Photo by Darius Bashar on Unsplash A virus isn't the only thing that's contagious, so is joy, smiles & kindness! Let's leave a lasting mark on the world, starting with sharing a bit of joy & kindness in your day. It's as simple as sharing a big smile.  Have you ever noticed others filters are different than your own? If someone says something that is uncomfortable, take a few moments while taking some deep breaths. Think about what to ask or say next and go from there. This can clarify what they said and what the meaning was for them and this gives an opportunity for a more informed response. Reducing some of those rubs with the people we love and care about adds more peace and joy to life.  For a single person; what is one value you want a significant other to have and how come? For involved person; what's one value you love in your significant other and how come it stands out? Take some time to unpack this today. Journal, ponder and or talk about it with someone you trust. Understanding ourselves more leads us to more enjoyment.  The other day I was dealing with many things around a project in progress. And I was shallow breathing. When I took a few deep breaths and started to tap and the stress flowed out of me. When you feel the stress or tension in the body rising take a few deep breaths and release it Add more calming by tapping gently on the karate chop point There are times we don’t realize how wound up we’ve become, when you notice it do something simple to reduce and release it.   Photo by RF._.studio from Pexels Have you noticed at times when you’re doing something new and a negative message comes up like; what am I doing, or I can’t do that, no way? Then it stops you in your tracks, keeping you from your adventure, goal, dream or other.
When these pop up recognize and acknowledge this is a new path and that’s an old thought and continue to move forward. Has fear held you back when you want to move past it? Answer some simple questions to start moving past fear. Recently, I noticed I was looking at many things in one bag and it felt stressful and overwhelming. When separating out the specific things to do and focusing on what's needed in this moment, it makes life feel more calm and peaceful. Stay in the moment and focus on what's needed to do at this time and feel less stress and more calm and peace.  At the beginning of the year is a great time to explore what you want to accomplish. Here are some prompts to get you thinking and moving forward . . .
If you notice you aren't taking a step, break it down to smaller steps. This makes them no brainer steps and dials down resistance to your big dream.  Have you wanted to do something and felt apprehension, this has simple steps to reduce apprehensions about doing something? The new year is coming up fast and in previous years I've shared and chose three words to focus on at the beginning of the year. This year I came up with a different idea: Choose a statement or thought to keep the focus on for the year. What’s your focus statement or thought for the year? This year mine is: I choose to live a life I love. Put it up to see it often. If there's a picture that represents it, put that up. New things are easier to see in our environment and will remind us of our focus for the year.  Photo from Pexels by Andrea Piacquadio The Holiday season can be busy. Set aside some special time for you this week to fill your bucket.
 Having easy, doable steps to move you forward on a goal keeps the momentum going. What are 3 action steps to move forward on a goal this week? Make your action steps as very easy & doable.  This walks you through a simple 3 step system for decluttering. At times the Holidays are a tuff time for low self-kindness. There are more demands on our time and being hard on ourselves can come up (the house isn't clean enough, wanting to do more . . .). This Holiday season when you catch your inner voice going down "the Holiday not enough" verbal path, refocus on all you're doing and say something kind about amazing you.   One day life was going great and I couldn’t figure out why I was feeling overwhelmed. On my drive home I realized there was an overflowing basket of feelings that needed to be untangled. It felt good to release it and understand why I felt overwhelmed. Here's the simple process:
This helps to release overwhelm. Having less overwhelm leads to more peaceful, joyful days.  Recently I wanted to do something and I had apprehensions about it. With some thought I created a plan to reduce it. Here’s the simple three-step plan:
Planning ahead is a great way to address apprehensions and do the things you want to do in your life.  Photo by Jess Bailey on Unsplash |