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Changing the past isn't possible but learning from it is. If a past event comes to mind that you’d wished gone differently. Ask yourself: What could I have done differently. Possibly spoke with a softer voice. Taken a few deep breaths before responding. And if it isn’t a good time say something like hey, we’re here to have some fun, lets table this for now and talk about it at another time. We can’t go back and change things but we can learn from it and handle it differently.  Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash It’s easy to see your own faults and feel bad about it but taking time to focus on strengths feels better. This diminishes the negative effects of things you aren’t as proficient in yet. Utilize your strengths and enjoy the feeling of satisfaction.  Stress busting Tip 3 – find a quiet place to spend time in. It can be a comfy couch enjoying a relaxing cup of tea, take a walk to a special place and enjoy some beauty and quiet in nature. Spending some time in a quiet place is a great way to reduce stress.  Photo by Ladyfern Photos on Unsplash Stress Busting Tip 2 – Let yesterday go and focus on today. At times this feels difficult to do. Here are some ways to address this. Acknowledge the feelings and concerns from the past. Recognize them for what they are. This lets the focus come back to the current day. When in the present time, stress is lower.  Photo by Matthew Henry on Unsplash Have you ever noticed a situation when you left feeling unfulfilled or demotivated. These are times when some of your values aren’t being acknowledged or honored and this doesn’t fit who you truly are. Getting to know your values and living your values, leads to aligning with who you are and living as your true self in the real world.  Photo by Surface on Unsplash When feeling fear about a situation check in with yourself to see what in this situation triggers you. Learning to identify it will help you learn to acknowledge it and move on.  Photo by Nathan McBride on Unsplash Are there smaller things to lead to your larger dream or goal? For example: If you’re wanting to change your career path and need to update your degree or need a certification to do this. Talk to someone you know working in this area, look into what training would be the best fit for your life, contact them to see what the next steps are. Taking one small step taken today moves you closure to what you want.  Photo by Gary Bendig on Unsplash During the holidays life becomes extra hectic. Take time for yourself to have the energy for the extras holidays bring. Some ideas:
This will bring more joy to your holidays.  Photo by Alisa Anton on Unsplash People can give their power away unintentionally and it’s important to maintain it. Here are three Empowerment tips:
Be empowered by maintaining it with compassion, truth and kindness!  When feeling stuck, connect with others and talk about it. Sometimes all is needed is:
The flood gates open and ideas start to flow in.  Photo by Jani Brumat on Unsplash Do you wonder where the time goes and why things aren't getting done. Distractions get in the way. If you're catching yourself fascinated by something that moves your focus away from the next important step towards a goal to thrive in your life (a new job or promotion, school, planning your next adventure) these can be distractions that are getting in the way of where you want to go.
When focusing on the next few steps towards the thriving life you want, it keeps the momentum going towards where you want to go.  Photo by Roman Pohorecki from Pexels Have you ever noticed others filters are different than your own? If someone says something that is uncomfortable, take a few moments while taking some deep breaths. Think about what to ask or say next and go from there. This can clarify what they said and what the meaning was for them and this gives an opportunity for a more informed response. Reducing some of those rubs with the people we love and care about adds more peace and joy to life.   Here's a simple rated tapping script to reduce negative messages that get in the way of moving forward. Rate your feeling between 0 and 10 on "this negative thought" Tap gently on the karate chop point (side of hand) and say statement out loud 3 times: "Even though I feel stopped in my tracks by this old thought, I love and accept myself as I am." Gently tap 3-5 times on these spots while saying out loud: "This old thought " Top of head "This old thought " collar bone "This old thought " thumb "This old thought " index finger "This old thought " middle finger "This old thought " pinkie "This old thought " Take 2 deep breaths and check your number (rate it) on "This old thought " that was stopping you in your tracks. Repeat until your number is a 2 or less  Recently, I noticed I was looking at many things in one bag and it felt stressful and overwhelming. When separating out the specific things to do and focusing on what's needed in this moment, it makes life feel more calm and peaceful. Stay in the moment and focus on what's needed to do at this time and feel less stress and more calm and peace.  This walks you through a simple 3 step system for decluttering. At times the Holidays are a tuff time for low self-kindness. There are more demands on our time and being hard on ourselves can come up (the house isn't clean enough, wanting to do more . . .). This Holiday season when you catch your inner voice going down "the Holiday not enough" verbal path, refocus on all you're doing and say something kind about amazing you.   One day life was going great and I couldn’t figure out why I was feeling overwhelmed. On my drive home I realized there was an overflowing basket of feelings that needed to be untangled. It felt good to release it and understand why I felt overwhelmed. Here's the simple process:
This helps to release overwhelm. Having less overwhelm leads to more peaceful, joyful days.  Recently I wanted to do something and I had apprehensions about it. With some thought I created a plan to reduce it. Here’s the simple three-step plan:
Planning ahead is a great way to address apprehensions and do the things you want to do in your life.  Photo by Jess Bailey on Unsplash There are often many choices in life. The choice of a direction in life you want to go for and what to focus on while doing it. When a day trip was coming, I had some concerns about the timing and such. In the end I chose to embrace the fun of a road trip and I was glad I did. When choosing something embrace the joy, adventure and fun of it.  Photo by Vladislav Babienko on Unsplash |