Have you ever noticed others filters are different than your own?
If someone says something that is uncomfortable, take a few moments while taking some deep breaths. Think about what to ask or say next and go from there. This can clarify what they said and what the meaning was for them and this gives an opportunity for a more informed response.
Reducing some of those rubs with the people we love and care about adds more peace and joy to life.
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