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When I was writing Hibernating 1, I realized I needed to look at my priorities to figure out a way to get out around people a bit more. While I continue to move forward with my calling, I need to prioritize somethings in my life so I have time for this. I need to down size my priorities during this very busy time in my life. Some areas I can change are:
I think this will help me find some time for a bit more people time. It felt great to say “no” to somethings and have time for connections. Have you said no lately and how did that feel for you?  When I looked at my priorities, I realized there are two parts to setting priorities for me at this time. Modify my Priorities is part 3 and finding what kind of community I need is part 2. As I look at my month I get out with my Honey often, we have groups we go to and adventures and I have lunch &/or chat time with friends regularly. I need a bit different community time on days when I don’t have outings or feel the call to be in a place where others are. Ways I can do this are:
Now I know what I need and I have some ideas of what I can do. Next I need to come up with some ways to adjust my priorities to fit it in when needed. Have you ever needed to be where others are and how did you chose to do this?  Picture taken by Katrina I realize I have been hibernating at home a bit too much lately.
This is my wake-up call to get into community more. Even having a brief encounter with people can be helpful. Seeing a familiar face and knowing a name is sometimes enough of a connection. At other times having more of connection is important too. Here are some ideas for me:
Wow, looks like there is going to be a part 2 for this blog on priorities. Have you had times you needed more community and what did you do to fill that need? Part 1 Hybernating A person in my life is struggling with depression and it reminded me it’s important to take care of this. I have had depression at times in my life and know other people that have struggled with it too.
There are somethings that need to be addressed by medical and/or mental health providers. Its best if the person seeks help on their own. If they are a danger to themselves or others then a hospital or mental health professional can decide what is needed. It’s important to have resources easily accessible during these times like:
Staying busy can be helpful too. Finding a movement class that is enjoyable and/or possibly connecting with people through a meetup group with like-minded interest. Some classes & movement could be: Yoga, Tai Chi, or taking a relaxing walk (at a favorite spot) or another kind of movement that works for you. While I was going through a big life change and struggling with my mood I had friends and family I could call, support groups to go to when needed and I even made some new friends. I am thankful for people's time and resources during a big life transition. Have you or others close to you struggled with depression and what were somethings that helped? I was going to write a different blog today and I came across Living Garbage Free (Posted below) and I had to find the author. I found some information at Positive Psychology News site. Living Garbage Free comes from the book The Law of the Garbage Truck™ by David J. Pollay. If you want to know more about the author or an article about this go to: _http://positivepsychologynews.com/news/david-j-pollay/20071002426 I hope you enjoy Living Garbage Free (Posted below) as much as I did. Have you avoided any garbage trucks lately?  Living Garbage Free comes from the book The Law of the Garbage Truck™ by David J. Pollay Letting go of old messages and different standards and having positive self-talk is important. I have noticed it is like pealing the layers of an onion.
I have seen improvements and still have work to do. Positively shifting the self-talk & self-standards is a gift of love to me. I am glad to have ways to check in and tools & resources to continue to improve. Below are some options, some I have talked about and others I haven’t:
If I find other helpful tools, resources or have another aha moment about self-talk I will let you know until then I think this concludes this numerous part blog. Self-talk Part 5 Have you ever noticed having a different or higher standard for yourself then others, I have.
When chatting with others, over the years, they had different standards for themselves too. I think this can get in the way of happiness and pursuing dreams and goals. I want to be kinder to myself and plan to check in on my standards because I deserve the same kindness I give to others. Have you checked on your standards and self-talk lately and are you being kind to yourself? Part 4 of self-talk My self-talk has improved although when I look at my body in the mirror my self-talk isn’t always kind. I wish some of my curves were smaller. Then someone mentioned self-judgment and I thought wow, am I doing that?
I don’t like to judge others and yet I am judging myself about my body. This is playing a part in my self-talk. I want to be the person that looks in the mirror and when I am done playing with my hair or getting dressed I say out loud “you’re gorgeous”. In the morning and afternoon I am going to complement myself in the mirror by saying “hey/you’re fill in the blank (good-looking, beautiful, gorgeous…). I am on my way to loving my curves and improving my self-talk even more. Have you struggled with body image and what did you do to improve it? Part 3 of self-talk For me the unknown after death is kind of scary but I believe there is more after death. Dying has kept coming up in different ways in the last week. A friend being put on palliative care, another friend having a celebration of life for a family member I knew and even in my homework for my certification. Death is an end to this life and a birth to something new for me, so what is it about death that scares me and how can I feel at peace with it. Aha….I realize there is a common thread, it is saying “good bye”. Weather its “good bye” to a life style, food, friend or partner (in death or relationship ending) or mine or another’s death. Grieving comes with good bye for me and I realize I need to be kind and patient during this process. There have been and will be times in my life I will need to say “good bye” and it is okay. Sometimes it is better to let go of people, foods, partners that aren’t a great fit in that time and maybe we will meet again and create a different relationship and maybe not. If I need to say good bye I will grieve and miss them and remember the fun times we had. It would be great to find peace with good bye & death. I am not there yet but I feel better as I continue to tap and ponder this. Have you struggled or feared death or good byes and what has helped you with this?  I have driven an old scenic highway many times over the years. This last weekend I was out with my Honey and we decided to go check out this view point that I have wanted to stop at and never had. I was pleasantly surprised by it. It was much bigger then I thought and wow the views were amazing! I was glad we took a drive and checked it out. Have you ever found a new place along a road you have driven many times and was pleasantly surprised by the experience?  |
